Loving Louise: When a Friend Has Just Been Diagnosed with Cancer

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A dear sister in Christ from our church, a young woman in her 20’s, has just been diagnosed with cancer.  This post was originally written for our church family but Louise has given me permission to share this here in hopes that it may be helpful to others.

Diagnosed with cancer

We are all impacted by the latest news about our dear sister, Louise. After miscarrying three babies this year, she now has been diagnosed with stage three bladder cancer. This news has caused us all great sadness to the point that some of us struggle to engage in our daily obligations as we wrestle with the reality of this burden. And we find ourselves asking why. Why are such terrible tragedies and burdens laid on one person, a person who wholeheartedly loves God and seeks to honor Him in every area of her life?

We may never know why

Could I encourage you, dear brothers and sisters, to lay this burden at the feet of our dear Savior? The reality is that we may never know why. God ordains all events for our good and His glory, even when we cannot understand the purpose.

Messages from the book of Job

Most of you know that Pastor Bud has been preaching Sunday evenings on the book of Job. When he began no one was aware of Louise’s cancer. God directed him to begin this series and Louise has expressed how listening to these messages has helped her. Maybe they will also help you as you consider Louise’s situation. You can access these messages at www.sermonaudio.com/lightaudio.

How can we help?

Louise begins her treatments today. How can we, as her church family, help during these days of treatment? Let me offer some suggestions:


Be praying for Brian and Louise each time God brings them to mind. Pray that the treatment will be effective. Pray that Louise would be spared from any nasty side effects. Pray that she will maintain her strength so she can have the treatments. Pray that Louise will have such a wonderful testimony in all of this that people will be drawn to Christ through her radiant testimony. Pray that she will continually find her encouragement and strength in the Lord her God.


We can also be doing things to help. I will check with them, but things people in her situation usually need are meals, housekeeping, money for parking, transportation, people to stay with her during treatment, and notes of encouragement along the way.

Be Sensitive

As Louise begins treatment she may become very weak and not feel up to chatting with any of us. We need to take direction from her in the matter of personal visits and phone chats. We need to respect her privacy about details of her condition or treatment she may not wish to share with everyone.

This Impacts others

We need to remember this impacts Brian every bit as much as it impacts Louise. What godly husband does not wish to ‘fix’ things and make them easier for his wife? In this matter Brian has to watch as his wife endures a treatment which may bring its own set of difficulties. Pray for Brian to continue to have godly responses to his wife’s suffering.

Let God use this in your life

So, dear church family, please allow God to use this to draw us closer together. Allow this to soften any hardened place in your heart as you cry out in prayer to Him for Louise’s situation. Praise God for His goodness and trust in Him through this time of suffering.

We serve a great and loving God, One Who loves Louise more than we can ever love her. “But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.”

Be Still and Know that I Am God

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Be Still and Know that I Am God

This was written in response to the struggles that many in our church family have encountered lately.

The Blessing of our Church Family

I love our church family.  More than any other church I have ever been a part of, our church family shares not only the blessings, but the burdens on the hearts of the members.  There is so little judgmentalism and so much compassion for what others are going through.

But it does not stop at compassion.  Our pastors, by teaching and example, have shown the family how to bear one another’s burdens scripturally. Sin is not condoned.  Instead, if someone is struggling with a sin habit, he is pointed to scripture and urged to draw upon Christ to overcome the problem.  When we share our burdens and struggles, we know others are praying for us.

Burdens and Trials

This past Sunday I became aware that an unusual number of the church family were wrestling with major trials.  Some were temptations to sin, some were relationship issues, some were health and personal trials.

That morning I prayed quickly with several of my friends before the service. Later in the day the Lord provided an answer to one of my own unspoken requests, but not in the way I was hoping or anticipating.  I was sad and asked God to help me wait on Him for a resolution to my prayer.

Scriptures and Hymns Bring Comfort

In answer He brought several things to mind for me to meditate on.  First, He again asked me to “Be still, and know that I am God.” (Psalm 46:10) He knows the end of a thing as clearly as the beginning.  Can I not depend on Him to work the entire thing out for my good and His glory?  Too often I’m like a dog on a leash who either dashes ahead straining and choking on its collar, or sits down and refuses to obey when the master says it’s time to move.

He also reminded me of Katharina von Schlegel’s wonderful hymn which beautifully reflects the teaching of Psalm 46:10.

Be Still My Soul – A Hymn for the Hurting

Be still, my soul: the Lord is on thy side.
Bear patiently the cross of grief or pain.
Leave to thy God to order and provide;
In every change, He faithful will remain.
Be still, my soul: thy best, thy heavenly Friend
Through thorny ways leads to a joyful end.

Be still, my soul: thy God doth undertake
To guide the future, as He has the past.
Thy hope, thy confidence let nothing shake;
All now mysterious shall be bright at last.
Be still, my soul: the waves and winds still know
His voice Who ruled them while He dwelt below.

Be still, my soul: when dearest friends depart,
And all is darkened in the vale of tears,
Then shalt thou better know His love, His heart,
Who comes to soothe thy sorrow and thy fears.
Be still, my soul: thy Jesus can repay
From His own fullness all He takes away.

Be still, my soul: the hour is hastening on
When we shall be forever with the Lord.
When disappointment, grief and fear are gone,
Sorrow forgot, love’s purest joys restored.
Be still, my soul: when change and tears are past
All safe and blessèd we shall meet at last.

God Has the Answers!

He has the best interest of His children at heart.  It may not be what we want, or hoped for, or planned, or anticipated, but it is what is best for us.  He truly is ‘our best, our heavenly friend’ who orders our lives and provides all that is essential for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3) He can be totally and absolutely depended on!

Are you struggling with temptation to sin?  Ask Him to show you that way of escape He has promised.  At the end of your rope in a relationship conflict?  Plead with God to give the wisdom He promises. Burdened by lack of provision?  Call upon God to show an unbelieving world that the Heavenly Father ‘supplies all your need.’ Discouraged, grieved, or afraid?  Lay it all before the Lord and tell Him you need Him to walk with you and sustain you with strength, courage, peace and joy as you go through your valley.

But most of all, we need to cease our struggles, ‘be still’, and KNOW that He is God!