Darlene Deibler Rose – Missionary Example in Times of Discouragement

Darlene Deibler Rose – Missionary Example in Times of Discouragement is used in conjunction with the lesson on Discouragement.

Evidence Not Seen by Darlene Deibler Rose is the autobiographical work of a young missionary wife imprisoned during WWII. Darlene McIntosh was only 19 years old when she married Russell Deibler, a veteran missionary and a man twelve years her senior. After six months of church meetings in North America and six months of language study in Holland, the Deiblers eagerly returned to Russell’s pioneer missionary work in the interior of New Guinea. Darlene accompanied Russell into the jungle to establish a new mission station near a previously unevangelized tribe. Darlene, the first white woman any of them had ever seen, grew to deeply love these child-like primitive people she was ministering to.

WW II reached them in January 1942 after the Deiblers had served in New Guinea for three years. The Japanese took control of the area and herded all foreigners into prisoner of war camps, interring the men in one location and the women and children in another. No communication was allowed between the two camps and Darlene never saw Russell again, learning of her husband’s death three months after his fatal illness. As a result of Russell’s death God gave Darlene a miraculous opportunity to freely witness of God’s love and salvation to the Japanese commander of the prison camp

Abuse and atrocities were inflicted on the imprisoned women and children, and many of them died as a result. Despite being so young, Darlene was a recognized leader among the women and was soon appointed as barracks leader. Her Christian testimony was clear and unwavering in the face of continual privations and troubles.

Near the end of the war Darlene was accused of being a spy for the Americans against the Japanese. She was moved from a prisoner of war camp to a death prison where she was the only female inmate. Severe malnutrition, serious illness, and discouragement engulfed her as she was tortured, deprived and humiliated in that prison. She could not sense God’s presence and was despondent until God reminded her of a verse she had learned as a child, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” (Hebrews 11:1) Still in her twenties, her hair whitened, and so ill she was unable to stand on her feet, Darlene called out to God with renewed faith.

After years of receiving only starvation rations of spoiled rice, Darlene longed for bananas. She pled with God to provide just one banana for her. She constantly dreamed about, thought about, prayed for and wished for one single banana.

In His mercy God laid it on the heart of the commander of her previous woman’s prisoner of war camp to come and visit Darlene. Shocked by her spectre-like appearance the commander left without speaking to her.  He composed himself, then returned and talked to her with kindness. When he asked what message she had for the other women prisoners, Darlene sent the message that she still trusted the Lord.

Soon after the commander left, a guard came to her cell and left her 92 bananas, a gift from the commander, who was unaware of her wish. She was absolutely humbled by God’s exceedingly abundant provision for her, and her faith was strengthened.

In reading this book I was impressed with how frequently a memorized Scripture verse or stanza of a godly hymn came to Darlene’s mind as she suffered discouraging fear and abuse. We are reminded by Darlene’s experiences of God’s presence with believers even when we may not sense it. God’s Word and God’s promised presence comfort and strengthen us in our times of discouragement.

Discouragement Worksheet

This worksheet augments the lesson on Discouragement recently presented to the pastors’ wives at the National Church Planters’ Conference in Mentor Ohio, sponsored by ARCH Ministries.  These sessions were adapted from my ladies’ Sunday School series on Biblical Womanhood created for Meadowlands Baptist Church of Edmonton.

Causes of Discouragement – Worksheet


Following are biblical examples of people who faced discouragement.  We will see the biblical response of encouragement in the next lesson.

D – Disagreements and conflicts – Discouragement in RELATIONSHIPS

  • David and King Saul – 1 Samuel 18
    • Saul was David’s father-in-law
    • The throne was removed from Saul and promised to David
    • Saul tried to kill David
  • Barnabas and Paul – Acts 15
    • Barnabas was an encourager
    • Barnabas and Paul disagreed about ministry
    • Barnabas and Paul parted ways and conducted separate ministries

I –Issues with finances and possessions – Discouragement in PROVISION

  • Job lost all of his possessions – Job 1
    • Job was a very wealthy man
    • God took away all of his assets
    • Job’s wife told him to curse God and die
  • Widow and the cruse of oil – 1 Kings 17
    • Because of the famine the widow had almost nothing
    • Her creditors threatened to sell her sons into slavery to collect their money
    • Elijah’s commands to her required great faith on her part

S – Spiritual Warfare – Discouragement in SPIRITUAL WARFARE

  • Elijah and the 450 false prophets of Baal – 1 Kings 18 – 19
    • Elijah thought he stood alone fighting against idolatry
    • There was a showdown on Mt Carmel
    • Jezebel sent her servants to find and kill Elijah
  • Jeremiah prophesies to an unbelieving Israel – Jeremiah 20, 32, 37, 38
    • Jeremiah warned the people of judgment
    • Jeremiah was imprisoned, persecuted, and thrown into a wel
  • Vision in Daniel 10
    • Daniel fasted and prayed 21 days waiting for the Lord
    • The angel fought with Satan for those 21 days until Michael came and helped him

C – Circumstances – Discouragement in our CIRCUMSTANCES

  • Children of Israel as they wandered through the desert  Numbers 21:4
    • The Jews (likely a million or so people) wandered in the desert for 40 years
    • Their disbelief caused those over 20 to be kept out of the Promised Land (Numbers 14)
  • David at Ziklag – I Samuel 30
    • The city was burned and the women and children taken captive
    • Some of David’s men wanted to kill him
  • Isaac and Rebekah and the wives of Esau –Genesis 26: 34 – 35
    • Esau did things his own way
    • Esau married Canaanite wives in spite of God’s commands
  • Naomi – Ruth 1 -2
    • Naomi and her family had to leave Israel because of famine
    • Naomi’s husband and two sons died in Moab
    • Naomi the widow returned to Israel with her foreign daughter-in-law
  • King Asa and the 1 million Ethiopians – 2 Chronicles 14:10-12
    • The Ethiopian army greatly outnumbered the Israeli army
    • Victory was humanly impossible

O – Our Sin / Sinful Responses – Discouragement due to our CHOICES

  • Jonah – Jonah 1 -4
    • Jonah ran away from God
    • Jonah’s disobedience caused others to be in danger
    • Jonah did not like it when God granted forgiveness to Nineveh
  • Samson – Judges 14 -16 (entire book of Judges describes the cycle of the Judges)
    • Samson did God’s work in his own way
    • Samson’s disobedience cost him his ministry and ultimately his life
  • Israel making a golden calf at Mount Sinai – Exodus 32
    • The people would not wait for Moses to return
    • They made idols to worship God their own way

U – Unfulfilled Expectations – Discouragement of DISAPPOINTED EXPECTATIONS

  • Disciples after Christ was crucified – Matthew 26:56; John 20:19
    • The disciples thought Christ’s kingdom would be in their lifetime
    • They were dismayed when Christ was crucified like a common criminal
  • Abraham  and the promise of an heir – Genesis 15; 16: 1-2
    • Abraham was promised an heir when he was 90
    • Sarah and Abraham had a hard time waiting and believing so they “helped” God

R – Response to emotional pain – Discouraging WORDS and EMOTIONS

  • Hannah – 1 Samuel 1
    • Peninnah taunted Hannah and mocked her childlessness
    • Hannah was in distress of soul
  • The Children of Israel and the report from 10 of the 12 spies – Numbers 13; Numbers 32:9; Deuteronomy 1:28
    • The spies did not believe God
    • Their words influenced the others

A – Answers to Prayer are Delayed –Discouragement of UNANSWERED PRAYER

  • King Jehoram, Elisha, and the siege of Samaria – 2 Kings 6 and 7
    • The siege had lasted a long time so that some people had resorted to cannibalism
    • The king blamed Elisha and wanted to kill him
  • The Shunamite’s son who died 2 Kings 4
    • Because the Shunamite ministered to Elisha and his servant, God gave her a son
    • Her son died unexpectedly of a fever
    • She ran to Elisha for help

G – Grieving God – Discouragement of our SPIRITUAL FAILURES

  • David – Bathsheba  2 Samuel 12:9; Psalm 51:4  David ignored his kingly responsibilities.
    • David committed sin with Bathsheba, then had her husband killed
    • Nathan the prophet confronted David
  • Lot – Living in Sodom  2 Peter 2:7
    • Lot chose the best land
    • Lot’s righteous soul was vexed daily from living in such an ungodly place

E – Employment conflict – Discouragement in our RESPONSIBILITES

  • Moses judging the Children of Israel (Exodus 18: 13-23)
    • Moses settled conflicts from morning to evening every day
    • He was worn out from his work
  • Rebuilding the temple (Ezra 4)
    • A remnant of people returned to rebuild the temple
    • Neighboring peoples tried to stop them with discouraging words and threats
  • Jacob’s wages – Genesis 28 -30
    • Laban changed Jacob’s wages multiple times
    • Laban regularly tried to cheat Jacob
  • Joseph and Potiphar’s wife – Genesis 39
    • Joseph was sold into slavery
    • His master’s wife tried to seduce him
    • Joseph was wrongfully imprisoned and then forgotten
  • Queen Esther and Haman – Esther 4
    • Esther was made queen to Ahasuerus
    • Haman wanted to kill all Jews out of spite
    • Esther had to be willing to forfeit her life to speak for her people

D – Disease, Illness, Pain, Physical Causes – Discouraging PHYSICAL PROBLEMS

  • Job – Job 2:4-8
    • Satan was allowed to take Job’s health
    • Job’s friends gave unhelpful advice
  • Paul – 1 Corinthians 12:2-8
    • Paul had a “thorn in the flesh”
    • God would not remove it



This session was recently presented to the pastors’ wives at the National Church Planters’ Conference in Mentor Ohio, sponsored by ARCH Ministries.  These sessions were adapted from my ladies’ Sunday School series on Biblical Womanhood created for Meadowlands Baptist Church of Edmonton.


Session 3 – Discouragement

Discouragement is something that most of us face in our lives.  As Christians we know we should trust in the Lord and we believe what God says in 1 Corinthians 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it,” but yet we succumb at times to discouragement.

Let’s define our terms.  What is discouragement?  The Free Dictionary (www.thefreedictionary.com ) says discourage is “1. To deprive of confidence, hope, or spirit; 2. To hamper by discouraging; deter: 3. To try to prevent by expressing disapproval or raising objections. Another definition is: derailment; feeling of despair in the face of obstacles (www.english-test.net) while a third defines discourage:  1. To deprive of the will to persist in something; 2. To oppose by expressing disapproval (www.dictionary.reference.com)  For our purposes we will define discouragement this way:  to leave one without hope, to feel emotionally deflated or without confidence; to be dispirited.

For years he was forced to live a renegade life, eking out an existence in caves and tents, residing in neighboring countries which were at war with his nation.  What heinous crime had he committed causing him to live such a life?  Unflinching faith.  As a youth David so loved and defended his God that he stood alone in battle against the mocking champion giant Goliath, with unwavering faith that God would guide him to defend His holy name.  David grew into a mighty warrior, known for his skill in battle and wisdom as a leader.  The prophet Samuel made it clear that the Kingdom of Israel would be taken from the disobedient Saul and given to David, and Saul was jealous and angry because of it.  For a while the two lived in uneasy harmony until Saul attempted to take David’s life.  So David fled and hid from Saul, gathering an army of warriors and mighty men to himself over time.

As his army grew it became more difficult to move the men and their families from place to place.  In the providence of God David helped the Philistines defeat some common enemies and the godless Philistine King Achish rewarded David and his men by giving them the city of Ziklag to live in.  David’s army fought alongside the Philistine armies to defeat many foes, but then the day came when the Philistines were to do battle with Israel.  David did not want to war against his brethren and God caused the distrust and suspicions of some Philistine officers to keep David from joining the conflict.  The Israeli army was sent back to Ziklag.

It took them three days to return home.  As they topped the hill overlooking Ziklag they were stunned by a horrible sight.  The city had been burned and was in ruins.  No signs of life met them.  The Amalekites had raided Ziklag, burned the city, and taken captive all of the women and children.  Tired from their strenuous battles and weary from traveling the men mourned and wept.  Some ranted and in their distress blamed David and threatened to kill him.  Exhausted, displaced, and facing disgruntled men, David was discouraged.

The Bible uses several words to describe discouragement. What does the Bible have to say to those who grow discouraged?

Cast Down

  • Psalm 42:5 Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted in me? hope thou in God…
  • 2 Corinthians 7:6 God…comforteth those that are cast down


  • Deuteronomy 31:8 And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed.
  • Joshua 1:9 Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.
  • Isaiah 41:10 Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.


  • Psalm 107:6 Then they cried unto the LORD in their trouble, and he delivered them out of their distresses.
  • Psalm 107:13 Then they cried unto the LORD in their trouble, and he saved them out of their distresses.
  • 2 Corinthians 4:8 We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;
  • 1Thessalonians 3:7 Therefore, brethren, we were comforted over you in all our affliction and distress by your faith:
Our story of David at Ziklag does not end with David being discouraged.  I Samuel 30:6 tells us that “David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.”  In his darkest moment David looked to God for direction, help, and hope.  The chapter goes on to tell us how David did not rush out to reclaim his family and goods, but first sought the mind of God.  The natural man might look at circumstances like these and quit or despair or blame others or grow bitter.  Instead David threw himself on the mercy and wisdom of the One who knows and controls all.  David encouraged himself in the Lord, HIS God. 

Matthew Henry comments on this:

 “Those that have taken the Lord for their God may take encouragement from their relation to him in the worst of times. It is the duty and interest of all good people, whatever happens, to encourage themselves in God as their Lord and their God, assuring themselves that he can and will bring light out of darkness, peace out of trouble, and good out of evil… It was David’s practice, and he had the comfort of it, ‘What time I am afraid I will trust in thee’. When he was at his wits’ end he was not at his faith’s end.”

The flip side of this will be presented in Session 4: Encouragement